Letting go is never easy. When you lose someone close to you, even the smallest item can become a relic of a life that touched you. So you may hang on to it as something too precious to let go. When it’s your mother who’s passed, the emotions — and sentimental attachments — can become even stronger.
When it’s necessary to clear out mom’s stuff, especially while you’re still grieving, you may feel the urge to save everything. Instead, with the help of someone you trust, pick just those select few things that keep her close to your heart without filling boxes that inevitably collect dust or will be left to your children to figure out what to do with.
Remember, just because you’re clearing out mom’s stuff, and making room for the new, it doesn’t mean that you love her any less. It doesn’t mean you’ll miss her less. It means you see value in letting go. Perhaps you can find some better ways to remember the mom you love than storing her wedding gown in your attic for another 20 years, or cramming her linens in the back of your hall closet just in case you need them, when paper napkins really make more sense.